My Billion-Dollar Bet on Your Next Relationship…

We’ve all done it... Played the role. Held the smile. Said “It’s fine” when it sure-as-hell wasn’t.

Managed the room, the relationship, the reaction - because it felt easier, safer - than being real and calling bullshit on what wasn’t OK.

But here’s the reality that no one dares mention… Every time you pander, a part of you disappears.

Every time you show up as what someone wants - your spouse, the board, your friends, your team - you train your nervous system to believe your truth is a liability.

And eventually, you forget what it feels like to be known. 

Not for what you offer. Not for the image you maintain. But for who you are beneath the performance.

The high performers I work with - entrepreneurs, executives, public figures, legacy clients - don’t break down because of a single betrayal or business loss...

They unravel because they’ve spent decades curating 'acceptable' versions of themselves that receive applause and accolade - but they're never actually met where they actually are.

And it’s not just exhausting. It’s expensive... Emotionally. Intimately. Financially.

By the time they reach me, the pattern is almost always the same: They’ve invested in someone - a partner, a lover, a friend, a co-founder - who presented as everything they ever wanted... 

Attentive. Loving. Safe.

Until the commitment was made. Then the mask dropped. And the chaos began...

And once again, they’re stuck in the same loop: Funding. Caretaking. Controlling. Quietly collapsing.

Because when "being yourself" feels risky - you’ll keep choosing people who make it downright dangerous.

And it's not bad luck. It's unconscious patterning. And if no one is calling it out? It will cost you everything.

There’s a line I love from Billions:

"You're listening to the wrong voice. You're tuned in to the one yelling at you... that you're fucking stupid... and you're ignoring the quiet one inside, telling you where the alpha is."

Bobby Axelrod didn’t just have money and power... He had Wendy.

His in-house performance expert who could look him in the eye and tell him the truth. 

Before the boardroom. Before the blowout. Before the self-sabotage.

That’s who I am.

Not a therapist. Not a coach. But the emotional re-calibrator of the top 1%.

I am the bullshit meter!

The person you bring in BEFORE the damage is done - To yourself and your relationships.

When something feels off, but no one’s saying it...

When those around you offer advice - but it's delivered through a lens of personal agenda, despite their best intentions.

When your head feels like a ticking time bomb, but you’re pretending everything’s fine so you can focus on your next deal.

My clients don’t need hand-holding. They need space, safety and objective clarity. 

They need an educated and strategic mirror.

Someone who can track their patterns faster than their partners can trigger them. 

Someone who doesn’t get pulled into the performance, but cuts clean through it - with precision, compassion, and confidentiality.

Because here’s the real bet I’m making...

When you’re clear, you choose better. 

When you’re not reacting, you attract differently. 

When you have a safe and objective sounding board - someone educated, grounded, and entirely uninterested in your external façade - you stop investing in people who sell you dreams and deliver dysfunction.

And your relationships?  They get better. Because YOU feel better - on a fundamental level. 

It’s entirely inevitable.

IF you stop doing things the way you always have, and open yourself to something - albeit different - but better!

My billion-dollar bet - figuratively speaking - is this: 

Your next relationship will be better - with someone like me in your life.

Prove me wrong.

 - Courtenay 

www.courtenaydubois.com