Keeping Intimacy Alive When Dating a Parent: The Ultimate Guide!

Finding love in today's modern world can be a maze of challenges and opportunities. One increasingly common scenario is becoming a part of a family where your partner has children from a previous relationship... While this can be a richly rewarding experience, it can also raise questions about how to maintain intimacy with your partner. How does one juggle the roles of a lover and a non-parent in a ready-made family, without neglect, comparison, conflicting priorities or resentment…?

Enter the domain of professionals like intimacy experts, relationship coaches, and marriage counsellors. With their help in managing individual emotions, and the dynamic of the relationship together, couples can navigate the tricky waters of blended family relationships and end up closer than they’ve ever hoped for. If you're in such a situation, this guide is for you!

1. Communication is Key:

Every intimate relationship expert will tell you that open dialogue is the foundation of any successful relationship. When joining a family with children, it's crucial to discuss your role in their lives, boundaries, and expectations. Ensure that your partner understands your feelings, apprehensions, and hopes, and that you listen to their perspectives in return. This will help in creating a bond that acknowledges and respects the unique position you both hold in the new family structure.

2. Seek Expert Advice:

Don’t shy away from seeking help! Whether it's a dating coach, relationship counsellor, or sex expert, professionals can hold space to objectively listen to both of your viewpoints and offer insights into creating and maintaining the intimacy you’re searching for. They're trained to identify areas of potential conflict and offer solutions tailored to your unique situation.

3. Dive into Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP):

NLP, as endorsed by many relationship experts, is a method of influencing one’s thoughts and behaviours through the use of language. By understanding how your partner perceives, processes experiences and communicates, you can better connect and establish intimate understanding of each other without judgement. This aids in breaking negative patterns and adopting positive strategies for connection that will considerably deepen your bond together.

4. Consider Hypnotherapy:

Hypnotherapy isn't just for quitting smoking or overcoming fears. An intimacy coach may introduce you to hypnotherapy to delve deep into subconscious blocks that could be affecting your relationship. This powerful therapeutic tool can help you understand underlying issues and build a stronger emotional connection both to yourself, and with your partner.

5. Make Time for Each Other:

While children will always be a significant part of your partner's life, it's essential to prioritize your relationship as well. A relationship coach would stress the importance of regular date nights, intimate alone time and weekend getaways. Daily reminders that your bond is a priority is essential for a happy, healthy and intimate relationship. As such, it deserves your undivided attention and commitment to making your love a priority.

6. Dive into Passion Projects Together:

One of the keys to maintaining intimacy is shared experiences. Whether it's dancing, hiking, or attending workshops by a sex coach, these shared experiences can help foster closeness and intimacy. Discussing your individual priorities and commitments with a professional will allow an objective perspective on how to make time for fun and connection in your relationship..

7. Remember, It's a Journey:

Relationships evolve. What might work today may need revisiting tomorrow, and that’s OK! We are not robots, we change and evolve as humans every day. A relationship expert or marriage counsellor would emphasize that it's okay to seek help when things get rocky. Adapt, grow, and evolve together and hold a safe space for each other to grow.

Throughout the navigation of your own journey, remember… Choosing a relationship where your partner has children presents unique challenges and opportunities for intimacy. While the children must undoubtedly be a priority, it's essential to remember that the foundation of your blended family is the romantic bond you share with your partner.

Harnessing the expertise of professionals like intimacy coaches, relationship experts, and marriage counsellors can provide invaluable insights and provide a safe pace to work on your challenges, not alone, but together! Tools such as Neuro-linguistic Programming, Time Line Therapy®️ and Hypnotherapy can be transformative individually and elevate the dynamic of your relationship and your lives in general.

By actively investing time in yourselves, seeking shared experiences, and continually evolving in your relationship together, you not only nurture your role within the family, but also solidify your position as lovers — a bond that is equally paramount and fundamental to your ongoing happiness.

For those seeking deeper connection and understanding, consider the "Identifying Your Intimate Blocks" course. This program is designed to shed light on the barriers preventing you from achieving optimal intimacy in your relationships. By understanding and addressing these intimate blocks, you can improve your intimate life right now!

If you're looking to take a comprehensive approach, the "Intimate Intervention Course for Couples" is the answer. This bespoke, one-on-two program is tailored to address underlying issues in your own unconscious minds, AND the dynamics that are affecting the relationship. This ensures you improve not just your physical intimacy, but your confidence, passion, and zest for life individually! Dive in, explore, and let's create a love story that lasts a lifetime.

Until next time…

All my love, Courtenay x